Ultra Independence is a Trauma Response

Would it surprise you if I told you that you might be hiding a trauma behind your Ultra independence? Independence can begin to teach us that we do not need anyone else, that we can do everything for ourselves, that we can walk this world without the assistance of others.

When a person becomes so independent that they fail to ask for help when they really need it, independence can be detrimental.

Ultra-Independence can stem from trauma such as growing up in a distant, abusive or narcissistic environment, from bullying at school, abuse from a partner, grief over the death of someone you loved dearly.  It is so easy to believe that we need to do this journey alone and control every step of the way based on so many things that trigger our belief system.

Ultra-Independents can become so used to doing everything themselves that admitting they can't cope becomes almost impossible, because that implies that they need others to help them, which is unacceptable to them.

I offer one-on-one sessions tailored to your Ultra Independence and tools to help you heal.