The onset of Ultra Independence in certain cases can be caused by grief, the death of a loved one or the breakup of a relationship. Grief creeps up on people in many different disguises, for some the emotion is immediate, they will bang the walls, howl at the moon and cry until they cannot breathe anymore. This can go on for days, weeks and months. This is actually a healthy way to deal with Grief, it allows us to feel the emotions and let them work through us. Grief never le

To the outer world the Ultra Independent has created a super hero persona, you are invincible, holding everything together by yourself without relying on anyone for financial or emotional support. You dont have many friends, as you do not trust people and would rather keep your circle small, in order to protect your already broken heart. All your friends admire you and will often turn to you for advice or when they are in need of emotional or financial support. You make a gre

We all look at independence as a strength. "Oh look at Sarah and how independent she is, she doesn’t need anyone to help her financially or emotionally. She has it all worked out for herself." On the outside yes, and a level of independence is important for all of us, but when it becomes part of your survival mechanism then we have a problem. Independence can start to instill in us that we do not need anyone else, that we can do everything ourselves and we can walk this world