To the outer world the Ultra Independent has created a super hero persona, you are invincible, holding everything together by yourself...

We all look at independence as a strength. "Oh look at Sarah and how independent she is, she doesn’t need anyone to help her financially or emotionally. She has it all worked out for herself." On the outside yes, and a level of independence is important for all of us, but when it becomes part of your survival mechanism then we have a problem. Independence can start to instill in us that we do not need anyone else, that we can do everything ourselves and we can walk this world